there is nothing permanent except change.
when we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.
– Viktor E. Frankl
if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
– Wayne Dyer
Transitions, challenges, and changes in our lives are opportunities for growth, though often they feel overwhelming. I would be honored to assist you in your transformation.
Certain questions are easy to answer: How do leaves change color? How does ice change to water? How do you change a car tire? However — the question of how we change our behaviors – how we shift patterns that are so deeply entrenched in us – remains a huge question and the focus of ongoing empirical work and inquiry.
There are endless books and resources trying to address how people change. Prochaska and DiClemente write at length about the Stages of Change (see image below too). And if you google “how people change” you will see there is tons of information available, both from professionals and laypeople.
How people change is among the top questions that I keep returning to as a psychologist (and as a human). Some say we need to be ready in order to make a change – but what makes us ready? How can we prime ourselves to become more ready? How do we initiate sustainable changes? How do we set ourselves up for success? How do we balance that there are often parts of us that are ready to change and parts of us that aren’t? How do we become curious about change rather than impatient and judgmental with ourselves?
In my clinical and personal experience, I have come to believe that transitions in our lives (chosen and unchosen) are opportunities ripe for change. Transitions come in endless forms. There are the concrete transitions of moving, changing jobs, death of a loved one, marriage, divorce, birth of a child, sex change, promotion, etc. And there are the more subtle ones: an awareness that we want to isolate less, a decision to start expressing ourselves through painting, a moment of insight during meditation or yoga or running.